Model Zara Peerzada has spoken for all of us single women out there.
Addressing the issue of marriage, the model said that people need to stop meddling into women’s business. “Why is marriage my only goal, or the only one anyone is interested in?” she asks.
“This week, in a span of 5 days, I was asked ‘when I’m getting married’ 17 times. Not that this in any way is a novel occurrence for the Pakistani woman. I would say, even taking fashion week into account – 17 times is a bit excessive.
“The ‘when’ always turns into a ‘why aren’t you?’ – to which, I’ve realised there is no correct response (“I’m not ready”, being the worst),” she says.
Zara adds, “This question, is just a prelude to the inevitable ‘let me reinforce everything society’s told you, in case you missed the memo about The Doom of the Unmarried’ (distributed weekly) spiel masked in concern, loosely laced with horror. They are met with this cocked head and blank stare.”
She then gives a little lesson to those who feel compelled to ask women about their marital status.
“Stop making women feel like they’re underachieved or doomed because they are not married. Stop making women feel like they’re falling behind or missing out. Stop making women feel like this is something they need to be happy. Stop thinking there’s something wrong with women who aren’t married. Stop reminding them that you’re watching. Stop assuming they’re unhappy. Stop assuming that even if they are, they want to talk to you about it. Stop asking women things that are none of your god damn business.”